Sadly, the "you have no respect for the priesthood" cudgel has been used too many times to speak of in order to try to shut up the lay faithful when they see wrongs being done in the name of Holy Mother Church. In our particular case, ever since we began the campaign to save St. Mary's, we have been called "disrespectful" when we disagreed with things expressed by the bishop and his priest supporters who have sought to close our church. Somehow, we are not "loving" if we disagree with a priest or the bishop. (Strangely, the reverse rationale has not applied to the laity. Apparently, no one is obligated to be "loving" and "respectful" towards us.)
We must never lose sight of the fact that priests and bishops, like the lay faithful, do not always do what is right or Christlike, even though they are "in persona Christi." In the wake of an "evangelization" meeting sponsored by the Diocese of Camden in which they seriously intend to "market Jesus," there are those of us who beg to differ with the crass commercialism and un-Catholic sentiments being expressed in these dark times.
Yes, we beg to differ. Bigger isn't necessarily better, a lie does not become true just because we keep saying it, and we cannot and should not "market Jesus." Yes, we seek to save our church and shield those in the pews (or potentially in the pews) from these offenses to Christ and His Church. If that makes us offensive to those who wield political power over us, so be it. It is not our job to please our pastor, but to defend our church and in so doing, defend The Church.
We have a good friend who grew up in another country. This country is predominantly Catholic and our friend is very devout. The interesting thing is that we agree on just about everything pertaining to the mess our Church is turning into. But our reactions are different. While I have been surprised in so many ways by the behavior of those supposedly representing the Church, my friend has not. Why? Because, she said, back in her country the vast majority of the priests were (fairly openly) corrupt. The pastor of her parish was even widely known to have fathered a child, and many priests, she said, drove expensive cars when most people could barely afford crappy ones. But she said there were some holy priests and they were easy to spot. They rode bikes.
The funniest thing she said, which I thought was at the same time very sad, was that "Americans have such high standards." After discussing what she meant by this, I learned that she meant that we Americans expect our priests to live out, well, what they're supposed to do. While we don't expect them to be perfect by any stretch of the imagination, we don't expect them to be corrupt. We Americans, she said, generally expect our priests to stand up for what is right and when they fall so far short, we are surprised.
I think that what were living through at this moment in time--between the child abuse scandals and the subsequent mass closure of Catholic churches throughout the country, as well as so many other things that have come to light--is a major American Catholic shift in attitude. Too many American Catholics, while respecting the office of the priesthood, no longer believe it possible to live a holy life as a priest. They no longer trust priests generally. As a result, there is a trickle-down effect. They no longer believe it possible to live a truly holy Catholic life as a lay person either.
We cannot let this happen. We must hold our priests and ourselves as lay Catholics to the same high standards. It is possible to live a good and holy Catholic life! We are called to obey God in all things and must not feed ourselves rationalizations of actions we know to be wrong. Things like eliminating masses, screaming at parishioners, stealing church funds, "merging" and closing churches, bearing false witness (lying) are all wrong for both priests and laity alike.
The long and short of it is this: Want to be respected as a priest in persona Christi, as a pastor who will lay down his life for his sheep? Act like one.














